{"id":5648,"date":"2026-06-15T21:03:36","date_gmt":"2026-06-15T21:03:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/login9ja.com\/global\/brendan-cox-and-katie-amess-the-pain-of-murder-is-with-us-every-day-but-our-country-can-come-back-together\/"},"modified":"2026-06-15T21:03:36","modified_gmt":"2026-06-15T21:03:36","slug":"brendan-cox-and-katie-amess-the-pain-of-murder-is-with-us-every-day-but-our-country-can-come-back-together","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/login9ja.com\/global\/brendan-cox-and-katie-amess-the-pain-of-murder-is-with-us-every-day-but-our-country-can-come-back-together\/","title":{"rendered":"BRENDAN COX and KATIE AMESS: &#8216;The pain of murder is with us every day but our country can come back together&#8217;"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"article-body\">\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">We are members of a club that no one wants to be a part of. Least of all, us. Those we loved most dearly have been taken from us in the most brutal of ways.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">In Brendan\u2019s case his wife, and the mother of their two children was shot and stabbed to death in a street by a <a target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"\" class=\"TextLink_text-link__dBSS0 TextLink_enabled__dJF3l\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mirror.co.uk\/news\/politics\/england-flag-war-town-pensioners-37100182\" rel=\"follow\" tabindex=\"0\" target=\"_self\">far-right extremist<\/a>. And in Katie\u2019s case, her <a target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"\" class=\"TextLink_text-link__dBSS0 TextLink_enabled__dJF3l\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mirror.co.uk\/news\/uk-news\/david-amess-murder-terror-attack-25228110\" rel=\"follow\" tabindex=\"0\" target=\"_self\">dad was stabbed to death by an Islamist<\/a> extremist in a church.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">The pain of these killings remains with us every single day, it colours our existence. Not just at big family moments or special occasions but in numerous subtle ways, the food they used to cook, the sound of their laughter, their very physical presence all gone from our lives. Many of you who have suffered sudden loss will know how that feels. The passage of time does not diminish the loss. It simply changes the way you carry it.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">Of course, in our case that pain wasn\u2019t just personal. It was very public. Because beyond our shared loss the most obvious thing we have in common is that both of our loved ones were serving members of <a target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"\" class=\"TextLink_text-link__dBSS0 TextLink_enabled__dJF3l\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mirror.co.uk\/news\/politics\/lord-peter-mandleson-files-parliament-37233726\" rel=\"follow\" tabindex=\"0\" target=\"_self\">parliament<\/a> when they were killed. One represented <a target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"\" class=\"TextLink_text-link__dBSS0 TextLink_enabled__dJF3l\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mirror.co.uk\/all-about\/labour-party\" rel=\"follow\" tabindex=\"0\" target=\"\">Labour<\/a>, the other Conservative, but more important than any party allegiance, they served our country and the communities they loved deeply.<\/p>\n<div data-testid=\"image-grouped\">\n<div class=\"ImageGroupEmbed_container__i0sRj\" data-testid=\"portrait-image-group\">\n<div class=\"ImageGroupEmbed_image-group-item__XHC82\"><button type=\"button\" class=\"SlideViewerButton_slide-viewer-button__BDJoG\" aria-label=\"Open image viewer\" aria-haspopup=\"dialog\" aria-controls=\"image-lightbox\"><\/p>\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-embed__0T8WX false\" data-testid=\"imageembed-37297590\" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-articleid=\"37297590\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"image\">\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-container__2AIQm\">\n<figure class=\"Figure_figure__Uce4f\" style=\"--figure-aspect-ratio:2\/3\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Late MP Jo Cox\" loading=\"lazy\" sizes=\"(max-width: 458px) 458px, (max-width: 615px) 615px, 1200px\" src=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.mirror.co.uk\/article37297590.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200e\/0_Leigh-on-Sea-incident.jpg\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.mirror.co.uk\/article37297590.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s458b\/0_Leigh-on-Sea-incident.jpg 458w, https:\/\/i2-prod.mirror.co.uk\/article37297590.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s615b\/0_Leigh-on-Sea-incident.jpg 615w, https:\/\/i2-prod.mirror.co.uk\/article37297590.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200e\/0_Leigh-on-Sea-incident.jpg 1200w\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div><figcaption class=\"ImageCaption_caption__j7HRu\" data-testid=\"image-caption\">\n<p aria-label=\"Today marks the 10th anniversary of Jo Cox's murder\" class=\"ImageCaption_caption-title__ccyQU\" data-testid=\"caption-title\">Today marks the 10th anniversary of Jo Cox&#8217;s murder<cite aria-label=\"Image: PA\" class=\"ImageCaption_caption-credit__wlx1W\" data-testid=\"caption-credit\">(Image: PA)<\/cite><\/p>\n<\/figcaption><\/div>\n<p><\/button><\/div>\n<div class=\"ImageGroupEmbed_image-group-item__XHC82\"><button type=\"button\" class=\"SlideViewerButton_slide-viewer-button__BDJoG\" aria-label=\"Open image viewer\" aria-haspopup=\"dialog\" aria-controls=\"image-lightbox\"><\/p>\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-embed__0T8WX false\" data-testid=\"imageembed-37297591\" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-articleid=\"37297591\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"image\">\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-container__2AIQm\">\n<figure class=\"Figure_figure__Uce4f\" style=\"--figure-aspect-ratio:2\/3\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"MP David Amess\" loading=\"lazy\" sizes=\"(max-width: 458px) 458px, (max-width: 615px) 615px, 1200px\" src=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.mirror.co.uk\/article37297591.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200e\/0_Sir-David-Amess-death-anniversary.jpg\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.mirror.co.uk\/article37297591.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s458b\/0_Sir-David-Amess-death-anniversary.jpg 458w, https:\/\/i2-prod.mirror.co.uk\/article37297591.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s615b\/0_Sir-David-Amess-death-anniversary.jpg 615w, https:\/\/i2-prod.mirror.co.uk\/article37297591.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200e\/0_Sir-David-Amess-death-anniversary.jpg 1200w\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div><figcaption class=\"ImageCaption_caption__j7HRu\" data-testid=\"image-caption\">\n<p aria-label=\"MP David Amess was killed in 2021 during a constituency surgery\" class=\"ImageCaption_caption-title__ccyQU\" data-testid=\"caption-title\">MP David Amess was killed in 2021 during a constituency surgery<cite aria-label=\"Image: PA\" class=\"ImageCaption_caption-credit__wlx1W\" data-testid=\"caption-credit\">(Image: PA)<\/cite><\/p>\n<\/figcaption><\/div>\n<p><\/button><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">Jo and David came from different political traditions, but they shared a belief in public service, in engaging with people who disagreed with them and in bringing <a target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"\" class=\"TextLink_text-link__dBSS0 TextLink_enabled__dJF3l\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mirror.co.uk\/news\/uk-news\/communities-across-uk-stand-together-37142310\" rel=\"follow\" tabindex=\"0\" target=\"_self\">communities together<\/a>. At a time when public debate can feel increasingly angry and divided, those values matter more than ever.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">The attack on our loved ones was an attack not just on them, but on our democracy. When someone you love is murdered in an act of extremism, the impact reaches far beyond your own family. It affects communities, public life and our confidence in the values that hold us together. And that gives us and our families a particular desire to protect our democratic way of life from those who want to attack or subvert it.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">Remembering <a target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"\" class=\"TextLink_text-link__dBSS0 TextLink_enabled__dJF3l\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mirror.co.uk\/news\/politics\/brendan-cox-jo-wouldnt-wanted-22196967\" rel=\"follow\" tabindex=\"0\" target=\"_self\">Jo <\/a>and my David is important. But remembrance alone is not enough. We must also be willing to learn. Democracies honour those they lose not only through tributes and anniversaries, but by having the courage to examine what happened, ask difficult questions and act on the answers so that there is no repeat.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">When we lost our loved ones we hoped that the country would learn from what happened. That there would be an understanding that democracy isn\u2019t an event \u2013 but a living thing, embodied by committed individuals and dependent on public support and engagement. That we need to nurture and protect it, not just assume it will look after itself. We worry that we have forgotten that lesson.<\/p>\n<div data-testid=\"image-group\"><button type=\"button\" class=\"SlideViewerButton_slide-viewer-button__BDJoG\" aria-label=\"Open image viewer\" aria-haspopup=\"dialog\" aria-controls=\"image-lightbox\"><\/p>\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-embed__0T8WX false\" data-testid=\"imageembed-37297587\" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-articleid=\"37297587\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"image\">\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-container__2AIQm\">\n<figure class=\"Figure_figure__Uce4f\" style=\"--figure-aspect-ratio:1.5\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Late Labour MP Jo Cox\" loading=\"lazy\" sizes=\"(max-width: 458px) 458px, (max-width: 615px) 615px, 1200px\" src=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.mirror.co.uk\/article37297587.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200e\/0_Labour-MP-Jo-Cox.jpg\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.mirror.co.uk\/article37297587.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s458b\/0_Labour-MP-Jo-Cox.jpg 458w, https:\/\/i2-prod.mirror.co.uk\/article37297587.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s615b\/0_Labour-MP-Jo-Cox.jpg 615w, https:\/\/i2-prod.mirror.co.uk\/article37297587.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200e\/0_Labour-MP-Jo-Cox.jpg 1200w\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div><figcaption class=\"ImageCaption_caption__j7HRu\" data-testid=\"image-caption\">\n<p aria-label=\"Late Labour MP Jo Cox at a tug of war event\" class=\"ImageCaption_caption-title__ccyQU\" data-testid=\"caption-title\">Late Labour MP Jo Cox at a tug of war event<cite aria-label=\"Image: Huddersfield Examiner\" class=\"ImageCaption_caption-credit__wlx1W\" data-testid=\"caption-credit\">(Image: Huddersfield Examiner)<\/cite><\/p>\n<\/figcaption><\/div>\n<p><\/button><\/div>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">Of course such an approach requires action against <a target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"\" class=\"TextLink_text-link__dBSS0 TextLink_enabled__dJF3l\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mirror.co.uk\/news\/uk-news\/rise-number-school-kids-being-36323167\" rel=\"follow\" tabindex=\"0\" target=\"_self\">extremists<\/a> &#8211; like the ones who killed our loved ones. But it goes much broader than that. Our politicians have a key role to play. In leading in a way that seeks to bring communities together rather than driving them apart, that stops us breaking into opposing groups but tries to find reconciliation and agreement. We think our loved ones \u2013 from very different perspectives \u2013 had that in common.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">That approach must not mean avoiding difficult issues or brushing them under the carpet. In fact, that only makes those issues harder and more toxic. Politicians have a responsibility to deal with the difficult issues not just the easy ones. But in debating and discussing those issues they must take their responsibility seriously \u2013 including to those they may disagree with.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">But while politicians have a role to play \u2013 we all know that we can\u2019t leave it to them. It\u2019s too important for that. They will ultimately take their lead from all of us. Of course, that is partly about us all voting \u2013 but even more important is the culture that underlies our democracy. How we talk to each other. The care we show to neighbours. The way we talk to people even when we disagree with them.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">There are lots of ways to do that in our personal lives, but if you want to do something beyond that you could take five minutes to take part in The National Conversation \u2013 the first-ever attempt to genuinely crowdsource a shared vision from the public about the kind of communities and country we want to live it. This has to be based on what the public think. So please have your say on the country you want to see.<\/p>\n<div data-testid=\"image-group\"><button type=\"button\" class=\"SlideViewerButton_slide-viewer-button__BDJoG\" aria-label=\"Open image viewer\" aria-haspopup=\"dialog\" aria-controls=\"image-lightbox\"><\/p>\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-embed__0T8WX false\" data-testid=\"imageembed-37297616\" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-articleid=\"37297616\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"image\">\n<div class=\"ImageEmbed_image-container__2AIQm\">\n<figure class=\"Figure_figure__Uce4f\" style=\"--figure-aspect-ratio:1.14\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"David Amess with his family. (L-R) daughter Katie, wife Julia, daughters Flo, Sarah and Alex \" loading=\"lazy\" sizes=\"(max-width: 458px) 458px, (max-width: 615px) 615px, 1200px\" src=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.mirror.co.uk\/article37297616.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200e\/0_Sir-David-Amess.jpg\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i2-prod.mirror.co.uk\/article37297616.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s458b\/0_Sir-David-Amess.jpg 458w, https:\/\/i2-prod.mirror.co.uk\/article37297616.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s615b\/0_Sir-David-Amess.jpg 615w, https:\/\/i2-prod.mirror.co.uk\/article37297616.ece\/ALTERNATES\/s1200e\/0_Sir-David-Amess.jpg 1200w\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div><figcaption class=\"ImageCaption_caption__j7HRu\" data-testid=\"image-caption\">\n<p aria-label=\"David Amess with his family, (L-R) daughter Katie, wife Julia, daughters Flo, Sarah and Alex \" class=\"ImageCaption_caption-title__ccyQU\" data-testid=\"caption-title\">David Amess with his family, (L-R) daughter Katie, wife Julia, daughters Flo, Sarah and Alex <\/p>\n<\/figcaption><\/div>\n<p><\/button><\/div>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">If you have more time, next weekend is the Great Get Together with hundreds of community events right around the country organised by the Jo Cox Foundation \u2013 these can be big or small, long planned or cobbled together last minute.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">And finally \u2013 we\u2019re excited that the <a target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"\" class=\"TextLink_text-link__dBSS0 TextLink_enabled__dJF3l\" href=\"https:\/\/www.mirror.co.uk\" rel=\"follow\" tabindex=\"0\" target=\"\">Mirror<\/a> with the Express is planning to connect people across the country this autumn as part of its biggest ever \u2018Britain Talks\u2019 campaign. This will bring people together who don\u2019t agree to have civil conversations to find out what they can find in common. You can sign up here.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\">Of course these are all simple steps, but we genuinely believe that it\u2019s small steps that matter. And voices like yours that count.<\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\"><strong class=\"Strong_strong__e2x35\"><em>Join the <a target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"\" class=\"TextLink_text-link__dBSS0 TextLink_enabled__dJF3l\" href=\"http:\/\/www.national-conversation.ox.ac.uk\/en\/mirror\" rel=\"nofollow\" tabindex=\"0\" target=\"_self\">National Conversation<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"Paragraph_paragraph-text__PVKlh \" data-tmdatatrack=\"content-unit\" data-tmdatatrack-type=\"paragraph\"><strong class=\"Strong_strong__e2x35\"><em>Sign up for Britain Talks <a target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"\" class=\"TextLink_text-link__dBSS0 TextLink_enabled__dJF3l\" href=\"https:\/\/data.reachplc.com\/260764307114957\" rel=\"nofollow\" tabindex=\"0\" target=\"_self\">here<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.mirror.co.uk\/news\/politics\/brendan-cox-katie-amess-murders-37297564\" target=\"_blank\">Source link<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We are members of a club that no one wants to be a part of.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5649,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5648","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-crime"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/login9ja.com\/global\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/0_Katie-Amess-and-Brendan-Cox-Main-Mirror.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/login9ja.com\/global\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5648","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/login9ja.com\/global\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/login9ja.com\/global\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/login9ja.com\/global\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/login9ja.com\/global\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5648"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/login9ja.com\/global\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5648\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/login9ja.com\/global\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5649"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/login9ja.com\/global\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5648"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/login9ja.com\/global\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5648"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/login9ja.com\/global\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5648"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}